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Dr. Grande, I wonder if you could talk about avoidant attachment style.
Thank you for another interesting short and I hope you have a wonderful day!❤
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omg.this is all me!!!!
I'd love a longer video on this
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Hmm, interesting I've always had this Idea that anxious attachment is more associated with borderline. Then the grandiose narcissist is more dismissive avoidant and disorganised attachment more covert narcissism.
I am also curious about development of personality traits and I did hear once that once narcissism is kind of a behavioral trait to protect borderline tendencies. It's interesting then that narcissistic people often the develop antisocial and more machiavellian and sadistic traits as to regulate narcissistic traits. It's like emotional regression. I guess this happens in childhood but I kind of feel prolong trauma in adulthood can lead to it in adults too.
For example an adolescent that is chronically lonely or depressed or bullied can chronically have problems to regulate emotions. This may cause a victimhood mentality to develop and prolonged victimhood (real or perceived, momentary or take up as an identity) leads to borderline behaviour. Borderline behaviour leads to narcissism and so on. I wonder if this victimhood, polar identity, narcissistic traits and then antisocial behaviour is how the various dictators went from tribal ideologues to psychopathic leaders
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I’m getting better- only listened to this 15 times.
I’m a simple person and sometimes Dr Grande is over my head!
I think that may be ok.
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So are these people doomed to die alone unless they get with someone who is just as screwed up as you are?
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I need Dr. Grande to offer over-the-phone therapy... If any one of my therapists were this honest and spoken in this manner, I would have probably had a better understanding of my mental health issues.
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Mr. Grande, I appreciate you and the work that you do sir
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Thank you Dr. Grande, as someone living with bpd your videos on bpd are always very insightful and educational but never come across looking down upon or shaming those with this disorder unlike a lot of other psychiatrists have done which i appreciate a lot. Thank you for all that you do 💓
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Dr Grande you explain things so clearly I have become a fan. I like to understand people and I think you do a fantastic job. The best on YouTube in my opinion.
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What is the solution???
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dismissive avoidant bpd here <3 <3 <3
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Thank you 🖤
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Thank you so much, Dr. Grande!
I directly asked two cb therapists a few years ago if they see any particular disorder and both denied. Maybe they weren´t overly prepared, but I went with their assessment.
Basic knowledge like this feels more helpful in any case.
I would assume that I have a fearful-avoidant attachment style, but just for now I see important differences.
I never engaged in self harming behaviour eg, I´m practically non-alcoholic, no other drugs. I´m not overly impulsive in most areas, but I lack knowledge about important rules that would help to protect myself.
I had to find out lately however when I had to face situations or actually tried things myself in order to improve and explore options that my tendency to freeze and fawn and dissociate in dangerous situations is way worse than I thought.
I am generally fearful, but I had no idea when this fear would become helpful bc my fear was based on the things that happened in my family.
Tendencies towards addictive behaviour in categories like fantasies/limerance stuff, procrastinating in general I can see. Mind tends to get creative in finding solutions when noone else can find them for you. 😂
It´s an up and down, forward and steps back with reocurring feelings of despair.
Part of my personality seems to be that I try to solve this like a puzzle or maybe more like a crazy IKEA furniture with instructions in a foreign language and with crappy tools.
Then on top of that there is this odd gender changer item that keeps falling into your hands and you wonder how the h.. does this fit in now? 😂
(Undersharing/oversharing is also strong in me)
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Always fascinating!!
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Most people have , some sort of disorder .
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Could a non-outwardly angry person, with a disorganized attachment, and a BPD trait pattern, then be classified as a quiet borderline?
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So that's what's wrong with me then.
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Stop I talking to my exes lol 🤣🤣
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I feel ii fit the romanctic attachment but I also can be the opposite to protect myself. A fear of being mistreated and paranoid of feeling not worthy. But thank you this is very informative
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@paulaankrah
1 year ago
Abstinence is best for a while when ill.
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