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So true. I hardly feel worthy of the term trauma. Surely others “deserve” it more.
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For me, a big part of my trauma work has been the need for a reality check. Some of the things I've told my friends about, saying they were unfair, have gotten, "THEY DID WHAT??? WHY DID YOU EVER SPEAK TO THEM AFTER THAT?"
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My EMDR therapist is perfect in every way except for validation. She never ever invalidates me, and validates me explicitly on occasion, but mostly it is up to me to validate myself. Which is a major struggle for me. I think on the bright side I am gradually learning how important self validation is even though it is so very hard.
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So true. I like that youre speaking on this because i've deffinitely felt invalidated by therapists before. important that what is trauma for one person may not be for someone else. Trauma is a subjective experience. And i think that more therapists need to realise that. Sometimes therapists try and give another perspective but it can feel like theyre justifying the persons behaviour and it would be more healing to just validate the experience.
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my last therapist was extremely invalidating. he even chuckled as I got agitated recalling certain things that were causing me significant distress. fuck that guy.
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Agree. In my past i had 0 validation and acknowledgement by my therapists. Validation trauma is critical indeed. I went through regressive hypnosis with a therapist just to remember which the trauma i had at 6 years young was. It was very painful. No, nobody offered me a shoulder but my few friends.
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You go Barbie and I love your top! ❤
When I use that word it's like I'm making my past situation up. Thank you for being there for us.
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I hardly ask for support and validation. I often find myself seeking shame, guilt, and judgmental criticism. I seek people being hard and coming down tough on me for feeling unpleasant emotions. I also seek judgment for not communicating what’s wrong. Something along the lines of, “you shouldn’t have done that. Now look who’s left picking up all the pieces because somebody decided to hold it all in and not tell someone.” Or, “you shouldn’t have felt sad. You shouldn’t have been mad. You shouldn’t have cried. You’re absolutely wrong for that.”
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I like the idea that healing is to experience the opposite of the trauma. Sometimes, the validation of the impact is the opposite of the denial, and that heals.
Its also interesting, these days, anyone who has had a trauma is "traumatized," so what does traumatized mean in todays use?
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Oh wow.. you just hit the mail on the head. I guess that’s what I’ve been battling with, the fact that it IS trauma. The validation.
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♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️😇
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I need trauma therapy but lo and behold hardly anyone in my state treats Dissociative Identity Disorder, can't even find someone who will treat our PTSD because they go together and we arnt veterans. We can't process ourselves...it's probably not the best approach
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When exactly is validation not a bad idea?😅 (Regardless if it's therapy or a bus stop) It's the proverbial "honey that helps the medicine go down" for conflict.
In my case? I both validate AND agree with you! (Funny how it's not always the same thing.)
To my understanding, the function of invalidation is to socially mark bad or undesired behavior (either shut them down or move the conversation along). Invalidation is not as harsh as a punishment, but you certainly aren't rewarding their efforts.
It may be something the therapist saw in the client (or even themselves) and is slipping out of "wise mind". It may not even be where the therapist is actually coming from (someone deep in thought can unintentionally look invalidating. And how else are you gonna respond without reacting😅).
as a rule of thumb? The other person just needs to know that their interpretation is on the table of possibilities in the discussion ,(at the very least? It's real for them. At the very most? It's still an interpretation of another's reality.)
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The very definition of trauma is making an event into something it wasn't lol..
"Emotions don't happen to people they happen by people"
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@augustbutterfly
2 months ago
Super important!! I find myself gaslighting my own trauma like you said, maybe it wasnt that bad when it probably was.
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